Without any further delay, let me jump right in here and talk about the things that I miss...
First of all...I miss my parents...and all that went with them. The unexpected visits on Sunday morning when I really wanted to sleep in. The holiday dinners with everyone at the table. The smell of my dad's pipe tobacco or the sight of my mom wearing my dad's socks (which he frequently complained about). Hearing my dad sing "You are My Sunshine" even though it was occasionally off key. Not having them to talk to when something goes wrong and especially being the most senior adult in the family now. I miss dad's conservative ways and my mom's liberal opinions but I really miss being able to pick up the phone and hear their voice on the other end.
I miss the little fights that my daughters used to get into when they were younger. The kind that were easily fixed. Because these days, the fights are bigger and the time between getting them resolved is longer and I hate my girls being at odds with each other. I'll take a fight over the bathroom or who's going to do the dishes any day to the rifts that I get stuck in the middle of these days. I miss arguing over homework and dirty bedrooms and the stupid boys that they thought they should be able to date. And as hectic as it was, I miss volleyball games, swim meets, choir concerts, and 4H fair week...which was a nightmare all in its own.
I miss the late night and early morning conversations with my best friend. Real phone conversations where you could actually hear each other's voice and know what kind of emotion was attached to the conversation. I hate the text messages and the one letter responses that really don't say much other than "I don't have time for you right now". I miss sharing what was going on in each other's lives and knowing that I was either going to end my day or start my day talking to my best friend. And I miss hanging around drinking wine and laughing over stupid stuff or traveling together and enjoying the company.
I miss how people used to treat each other. How they used to treat themselves with respect. How they used to use their minds to think for themselves instead of listening and believing all the crazy stuff that they hear on the media. I miss being able to speak your mind without being labeled or accused of being politically incorrect. I miss seeing people take advantage of the American dream and working hard to be successful and prosperous instead of standing with their hand out in front of every social service agency that they can find.
Call me old fashioned or stuck in my ways. That's fine. I understand that things change with the times and that's fine. But one thing that change has taught me is that we each need to make sure that we cherish all those moments that seem little and unimportant at the time because when you sit back and reflect like I have for this blog entry...it was those little things that were the most important things in my life.